Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Full Circle

This is probably the hardest blog I have had to wright since I started this. The title should tell you where I am going here.

It will be brief and I don't anticipate to many A.D.D. moments. Sorry to disappoint ya.

This past 2 weeks have taken me and my family on an emotional roller coaster the likes of which I would hoped never happen. The joys and sorrows of everyday life can be the worst thing to deal with.

A few weeks back, after having a nice dinner with the wife; tragedy struck. Our life path crossed with that of an unaware and unfortunate dog. Standing in the middle of my lane at 55 (ish) miles per hour and traffic heading straight at me from the other direction is not going to work to the dogs benefit here, sorry. Contact. I can tell you that just as fast as I noticed this, it was over. The suffering did not last, or even exist other than maybe a slight raise in its heartbeat. I felt absolutely terrible. I had just killed someones pet. My hands shook, my stomach was doing flips and suddenly it got really warm in clothes. Feelings that I hoped would pass and never return.

The joys. Last weekend, we had our family reunion in town. A festive and joyous occasion for everyone; i hope. I think deep down, we all knew it was possibly one of the greatest chances to get everyone together again. Times are getting the best of some of us and some of us couldn't make it. Which brings me to my Aunt Shirley. Great little woman, been through a lot.

Well, this was Saturday. In two days it was scheduled that Shirley have open heart surgery and a valve replacement. Now coming from a family with this issue in the past, concerns are always a bit elevated. I unfortunately could not make the trip, so, my father was going solo on this one to sit and await word to spread to the rest of us. Monday morning came and went. No word. So, early afternoon I made the call; not knowing what I would hear on the other side. My father relieved me by giving me news of a very successful surgery. A warm smile came across my face and I did everything I could to contain my joy to those around me at the time (for fear of looking nuts). To this moment, she is still in recovery but making the needed steps to getting back to normal.

Last leg, hang with me here. Tuesday, that being yesterday, a sad development arose again. We noticed that Midnight (our family stray taken in by my wife 2 years ago); who had been of an ill state for a month or so now, had gotten worse. Upon picking her up, we noticed that her belly was Jaundice and yellow colored. Something was really wrong here. Her appetite had gone down slightly as of late but we didn't expect this. My wife and I both knew deep down, this was the end of our kitty kitty. With close comfort and a watchful eye overnight, she had made it through the night time hours. We had previously (ironically) made an appointment to have her checked out one more time. That day was today. So, fearing the worst, I took one last mental picture of her perched on the kid's nightstand. Gave a kiss to her head, said my last goodbyes and went to work. Then the phone rang shortly after 9, "do you want to see her before i have her buried?" - a tearful and heartbroken wife said on the other line. I paused and said, no thanks - I have a great picture I am going to remember her by.

The point here is don't ever take any day for granted. Enjoy the good with the bad, make yourself stronger knowing that this roller coaster we call life; just happens.

R.I.P. - Midnight (kitty kitty), The family pet that some family let go of and we gave 2 great years to.
R.I.P. - The dog that was taken way to soon a few weeks ago. I am sure you are missed and I know how your family must feel. Ironic again huh.

And To my Aunt - Stay strong, your gonna get through this - you have all our prayers and thoughts........


Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Cha Cha Cha Changes.....?

Not sure where this needs to start. Most of you who know me know how hard this is going to be. Got a big pill to swallow so hold up here, it's gonna start off slow.

Situations, times, and events. These things all seem to be needed to make us who we are and why we do what we do. Good, bad or indifferent things must happen. The reasons may be unknown, they may have a purpose or intent, but i venture to say most of us don't have a clue.

6 months. Seems like a long time right. To some it can be. To others it can be just repetition, perpetual motion of sorts I guess you could say. Well, for me, i tend to waiver on the brink of both sides of this denomination.

The number 6 is big here for a few reasons. It is the amount of time it can take to produce a great lager. It is more time than we typically get for nice weather. It's also about the amount of time it takes to completely turn a person or relationship.

Now, I can tell you of the latter by means of personal experience. Allow me to explain. 6 months ago, i had a conversation that i really didn't want to have. In fact, i did what I could at the time to stop it; didn't work, now here i am writing about it. I didn't particularly care for this conversation nor did i care at the time for what happened afterwards. But, with time, i learned to understand that with a simple conversation your life, surroundings, events, and future can change. Without choice.

The things in our lives that make us are our events, actions, surroundings and perspectives. Remember that, it's a pretty big lesson; the sooner you learn it, the better everyone around you will be (yourself included). At this time I would just like to add that if you ever get the chance, apologize, take the time to say your sorry. You never know when it will be too late. Small word, seems about as useful these days as "please" and "thank you". Where did our values of simplicity and kindness go?

A.D.D. moment here - Today i had the opportunity to express what I just said. I was returning from a walk across the parking lot at work today. Heard a Cardinal (My mothers favorite bird so I know the sound automatically) and thus started looking into the tree across from me to find it. At this time so was a short elderly lady who was also going into the building. We both stopped in our tracks and looked deep into the maple tree to find this bird. "I found it" i exclaimed to her. She walked (slowly) to me. I pointed - there it is. Just as i did, away it flew. Still making that distinct sound. It never did leave the tree, but rather chose to play hide and seek. The bird did this three times to us. Alas, she saw it, paused in awe, and started talking to me about how she use to have Cocteau birds. We walked towards the building, slowly, and talked the whole time like we had been friends for years. I held the door open for her, she said thank you very much. I helped her find where she was going for an appointment. I think I may have made her afternoon. I know she helped me have a better one. Thank you.

Anyway, i guess you could say that the things of our past really do dictate our futures. Even if we don't know it or realize it at the time. Things we say, actions we take, even the silence we have the right to use can all play a vital roll.

The point I am trying to make here is sorry says a lot. But timing is everything. It's kind of like when your buddy is having a party and he forgets to invite you but mentions it over and over. Still no invite. You certainly aren't going to invite yourself or ask for an invitation. Timing is everything, like when your buddy tells you a joke. You have that split second to have the perfect response, comeback or just right laugh. With that said, the previous mentioned 6 months have been about timing. Sitting. Waiting. Wondering. Then eventually that moment passes, the timing is lost. You wonder why the invite never came, why you didn't just laugh when the joke was first told. Why? Because - The events, actions and surroundings of our daily lives make us who we are.

Sorry. Don't be so afraid to use it; it may be just what someone needs to hear even if you can't understand. It may not be the event, surrounding or situation you were meant to understand. But your time will come, then you will realize just what this was all about.

I've done my part.......

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

What Next?!

Hello again.

So it's been a long while since I last graced the web with another rendition of "what is he thinking now". Or as I like to call it, a.d.d. So let's try diving in and try not to hit the rocks below.

Here we are in July, middle of the month, and we have had 11 days of rain so far! I am so sick of this already I am secretly wishing for a minor drought. Just enough that perhaps I can get outside and enjoy what little time we actually get without that white crap and the cold that comes with it. On the other hand, it's good for the garden and my grass hasn't looked this good and green in years! Thanks Ma Nature, even though you piss me off enough too.

Since we last met a lot has changed. I have met new faces, added new f/b friends, seen co-workers come and go fast enough that a revolving door seems to be needed at times, found a new favorite band (and actually can stay focused on that) (http://www.facebook.com/pages/THE-GASLIGHT-ANTHEM/384408923304?ref=ts&v=wall), bought and learned (legally) how to ride a motorcycle, got the chance to drive a stock car again (on dirt this time), and so many other things I lose track (hence forth my a.d.d.).

I guess the first thing is the motorcycle. Thanks Big Eddie for helping me on this one. Thanks also to Shelby for kinda pushing me to get this done. Yeah, it's not a big deal to most, but hey, it's mine, it's paid for, and damnit it seems to be a lot of fun! As long as I don't die, been quite a few reports of such events lately. Please watch out for me and the rest of us bulls-eyes on the roads, thanks. I went with a friend, let's call him Shelby on a ride last Sunday. We covered 100 miles and to me, that was cool! Great to get some serious seat time and just see the sights. Again, the anger sets in regarding that whore Ma Nature, Thanks again! Oh well, I may not win, but it's the little victories that matter in this particular event. I digress.

As long as it's about speed and fun, how about that stock car. Well, it may be short lived, but, another special thanks to Ma "the weather whore" Nature for raining 5 of the 7 Fridays they have had a program scheduled! I apologize to the car owner Big M for putting it in the wash machine last time and coming out with some serious repair action. Don't know know it is going to be since again, RAIN every Friday since the said wash machine incident. There really isn't a feeling like looping it and seeing nothing but other cars coming straight for you! Now I know how Ricky Bobby and Tom Cruise (and others) must have felt :-). Woo Hoo. On a side note, it really is a lot of fun and I hope to get to do it again yet this summer.

Queen and I watched Shutter Island last evening. Eh, it was ok. Hard to follow along sometimes, kept you thinking though so that was neat. I won't say anymore for those of you who have not had the "pleasure" yet.

Had a few sad notes in the last few months. Don't really wanna talk about those but i hope those who have left are watching us and laughing right along.

Well, that's about it for now, time to get off this thing and do something productive. Yeah right. Talk to you all again soon (i hope).

Oh yeah, thanks to Mrs. Jack for reminding me to get this done. Even though I'm sure she didn't mean it that way.

Love and Peace!

Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Ambitions

Hello again.

Well, first off let me say that this may be a bit hard to follow. Oh wait, wanderings of an a.d.d. mind, never mind.

Have you ever had one of those days where you wake up and feel like you are going to finally get things done that you know darn well you probably cannot? I mean, you wake up, and for that split second you wander off into some mental retreat where time, problems, and life just don't seem to exist (much less get in your way). Sometimes those very thoughts are enough to get us up and moving with some hidden sub-conscious delusion that we are going to be that much more productive today. And, if you are anything like I am, those ambitions will either fade sometime during the day and leave you with an empty feeling of in-accomplishment, or, still be lingering in the back of your head as you sit lazily on your couch watching the next episode of whatever show it is this season on TV. Either way, nothing has been done but yet somehow you feel bad that it didn't even though you really didn't plan on it anyway.

I did get some response to my first blog and wanted to personally thank those who took the time to read it and even more to those who let me know they read it. Even though I did not start this as a means of adoration or praise, it's nice to hear and see so thanks again (you know who you are).

I don't know if this week can feel any more weird than it already has. It's only Wednesday and already I feel like tomorrow should be Friday or sometimes Tuesday. I think it's with everything holiday related that is throwing me off. You too? I hope so 'cuz man, this is not cool.

I've had a pretty interesting week so far too. Sunday, I was so elated when I was able to watch the final minutes of my football team win. Go Steelers by the way. Yet, I found myself just moments before that so darn pissed off and bored that I actually thought of all the ambitious things I could be doing or simply just taking a nap! The blame for that lies solely on wfrv channel 5 and fox 11. Let me explain. So being in N.E. WI, we are always going to be able to watch a Packer game and understandably so. However, when the game is a flat out, blow out, snooze fest and you refuse to switch over to another game on another fox network affiliate, well, that really stinks. Packer fans even have to admit a little that they were getting a bit bored of that game. Come on, don't hide it, unless you were actually @ the game, it was pretty boring. And then, and then, as if that wasn't enough, wfrv channel 5 didn't even have a football game on! They decided to just show infomercials and paid programming! Arrghh, so what do you do, the one day a week that is set aside for football for 17 weeks and we only get to watch 1 stinking blowout game?! Guess who is going to dig deep into his pockets for next season and have NFL Sunday ticket? Yeah, I will take donations now and you can come over and watch too. I just can't take the small market crap anymore. There I feel better even if you don't understand or care.

Two more points and I will leave you to your lives. I have decided not to use real names on this out of respect and privacy. So, if you take the time to read this and notice a resemblance to yourself and don't like the name I used for you, ummm, to bad it's my blog, get your own.

I would like to take this time to thank the Queen for being the first one to read this last week and not bash me too hard. In fact, I think deep down the queen may have even enjoyed it. Thanks to the Boss for helping me in the garage last night. The work is not done, but i appreciate your help anyway. Mrs. Jack, I hope you get a chance to read this as you seem to be the only one who asked if I was going to do this again, thanks. And lastly to the one who told me to do this in the first place, Big Eddie, thanks, I don't know that it is helping me the way you said it would, but it's kinda fun anyway. And to all of you who were not mentioned, thanks for reading it. I sure hope these get easier and more organized.

Have a safe and joyous New Year everyone and take care, see you next year!

Love and Peace.

Saturday, December 26, 2009

Let's Give this a Shot!

Merry Christmas, albeit a day late and a dollar short as old adage goes.

I find myself doing this for no further reason than to simply put down random thoughts, ideas, and from time to time just get things off my chest.

I will not say to anyone who reads this or knows me that you will at all times be graced, mentioned, or even simply spoken of in the most positive light. I will simply say that the truth as I see it or randomize it will be posted and if you are uncomfortable with it, darn it, start your own blog and let me have it in rebuttal. On the other hand, if you do in fact know me or my personality, you will fully understand most of these thoughts, good and bad. You will also be man or woman enough to know when I am simply venting or if I really do have a true gripe to you that needs to be addressed.

With that said, hello. This is going to be fun I can see it already.

Today, December 26th, 2009. The year is almost over and there are again so many things that I wanted to get done this year. As in many years past, I have failed myself again. 2010, Hi, My name is Dean, do you think we can maybe get somethings accomplished together? Let's finish that project, start that one we have been putting off, land on our feet more often, get back up and stop freaking whining about it, learn something new that will actually help? I hope so, welcome 2010, and to steal a line from Home Depot, Let's Build something Together!

Not sure where to take this next. As stated in the title, this is a wandering of and a.d.d. mind. I find myself sitting here with Pandora playing, hopefully quietly enough as not to disturb anyone else in the house who may be sleeping or reading. As the new song starts I can't help but wonder why I picked this station. I am really not in the mood for Michael Buble` right now. Ah, Pearl Jam Radio, now that's the stuff. Which reminds me, I really should update my iPod since I am down here and thinking of it.

So, a reflection on yesterday for a moment. I want to start by stating that it was a great day, Christmas seems to always be the only time we can actually get the entire family together for a few hours each year. Well, the only real time that we want to be together. A.d.d. moment, r.i.p. to all those we have lost this year! You will not be forgotten no matter how busy our lives get or how it may seem that we have. Ok where was I? So yesterday we all sat down together as a family, ate, drank, and caught up on things for the year. Some of us seemed to want to be there more than others, some of us didn't show up at all (but should have), and some of us wished it could have just been frozen in time and perfected for future use. Whatever your thoughts are on Christmas, it doesn't much matter to me, I see it as a time to get together and just relax from the 360+ days of busy hustle and bussle everyday life. Thank you for all gifts, thoughts, ideas, and conversations.

I think I have said enough here for now, as I find myself having so many ideas right now that I fear I could make this go on all night. That wouldn't be good for you or me. Have a great night world, I think we will be talking again soon.

Love and Peace!